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Great Valentine's Day
Gifts That Don't Cost The Earth
Valentine's
day is here and you've barely recovered from the expense of Christmas.
Don't worry we've got some great ideas for gifts for your loved one
that won't break the bank.
Give your partner a foot massage.
You will need are two or three big towels and some form of lubricant.
Rich cream works better for a foot's tough calluses and hardened skin
than hand lotion or oil, but any will work. You may wish to use one scented
with eucalyptus or mint (marvellous for refreshing tired, stale feet)
or tea tree oil, which is a natural disinfectant. You can make your own
by mixing a couple drops of essential oil into an unscented cream.
You can find lotions, creams or oils designed for massage at a health
food store or massage supply house. If hand lotion or baby oil is what
you have on hand, feel free to use it, but remember that it will need
to be applied more often than the products designed especially for massage.
Make Them A Love Album
One of the best ways to show you care at a minimal cost is to build a
love album. This can be as simple as a photo album or it can be something
you pour hours of cutting and pasting scraps into from your times with
your partner. You can use ticket stubs from events you've gone to together,
a matchbook from your favourite restaurant, that picture the waiter took
of the both of you smiling on your last holiday.
Don't forget to add captions to describe what the things are and their
significance. There's no end to the amount of things you can add and
one things for sure it'll be a great keepsake that you'll both enjoy
looking back on in the years to come.
Plant A Tree
Yes you can plant a tree in a forest somewhere you'll probably never
visit but why not plant a tree in your own back garden. It doesn't have
to be huge but imagine the joy it will give you watching it grow just
like your relationship. Don't worry if you don't have a garden there
are many plants and small trees that can live indoors and they don't
have to be huge. Bonsai trees can be grown from seeds that cost only
a few pounds.
Arrange A Picnic
February isn't the warmest month of the year but a picnic in the park
can still be romantic. If there are no nice parks near you then look
for a nice beauty spot that your partner will appreciate. Spend some
time putting together what you would like to include, a nice cloth to
lay the food out on, pretty napkins and wine glasses which will make
even fruit juice look that little bit special. Pack up some of their
favourite foods, a nice soup can be kept warm in a flask. Cold chicken
and a pasta salad make great picnic foods. Take a nice
bottle of wine or some chilled juice and dessert. The great thing about
February is that you won't have to worry about bees and wasps.
Make A Donation In Their Name
Make a small donation in your partner's name. There are many donations
that can be made at very low costs, and the person will like the idea
that you thought of them as someone who would prefer to do something
good for other people rather than getting something for his or herself.
Even if the person would prefer a more material kind of gift, they will
never admit it. Intermix Award Winner Ledama Olekina is still looking for donations for
his Maasai School in Kenya. Donations can be sent to Maasai Education
Discovery-Kenya P.O. Box 788 Narok, Kenya. Click here to visit the website:
Cook Their Favourite Meal
Even if it's fish and chips cook them exactly what they like to eat.
If it happens to be their mother's chicken soup then improvise and get
their mother to help you. They will feel honoured that you have gone
to so much trouble on their behalf and their mother will feel proud that
you value her way of doing things. If you absolutely can't cook then
why not arrange for someone else to cook the meal but make sure you do
your part by preparing the table, adding candles and of course the charming
conversation. Make sure the conversation is about them and not what a
hard day you've had putting the meal together.
Clean Their Car
A car is one of those treasured possessions that just like your partner
could do with a little bit of tlc every now and then and if its your
partners car what better way to show them how much you value them than
by cleaning something they value.
Using warm soapy water start by washing the roof first and include the
windows, front and rear glass, then do the boot and sides, working from
top to bottom.
Next you should do the interior glass, restore the lustre of the dash
with a reputable cleaner and use a lint free cloth to clean the instrument
panel (but don't use any chemicals). Vents and other tight areas can
be cleaned with a brush or swab to remove caked on dust or stubborn stains.
Remove stains and marks from plastic panels using a mild detergent. Well-used
ashtrays should be soaked in a soapy solution for a short time to remove
that tarry build-up.
Lastly, you need to give that carpet a good going over. Whatever you
do don't throw anything away. Put anything you think is rubbish in a
bag and your partner can go through it later just in case you throw out
their lucky crisp wrapper or the ring pull from their first can of beer.
Finally
If you want to give them a bumper valentine's day, why not give them
three of four of the above.